No Idea
Grace,
mercy and peace to you from God our Father and from our Lord and Savior Jesus
Christ. AMEN.
Anna, Kristoff—allow me to be the first to welcome you both into the wild and woolly world of marital bliss. And may I just say: you have no idea what you’re in for.
You guys are an amazing couple. You’re open, you’re honest, you’re level-headed, and you are clearly in deep and lasting love. You know each other right down to the core. You have that beautiful complementarity of a couple whose differences perfectly interlock. Where one is weak, the other is strong, and as a team you’ll be unbeatable.
Anna, Kristoff—allow me to be the first to welcome you both into the wild and woolly world of marital bliss. And may I just say: you have no idea what you’re in for.
You guys are an amazing couple. You’re open, you’re honest, you’re level-headed, and you are clearly in deep and lasting love. You know each other right down to the core. You have that beautiful complementarity of a couple whose differences perfectly interlock. Where one is weak, the other is strong, and as a team you’ll be unbeatable.
Over
these last couple months it has been an honor and pleasure to get to know the
both of you and to see just how very much you mean to one another. Your love thus far has already stood the test
of time and distance, of joy and contentment, of disagreement and compromise. You know each other, you strengthen each
other, and you love each other. That
much is crystal clear to anyone who’s met you even for an hour.
And
now you’ve come to make heartfelt, lifelong, and legally binding promises to
one another, before the authority of the state, before the witness of friends
and family, and before the eyes and pleasure of Jesus Christ, our Lord and our
God. Everyone loves a good wedding.
Especially Him. And for good
reason indeed.
But
no matter how much we prepare, no matter how much we strive and dream and plan,
marriage never goes the way that we expect it to. Never. You have decided to
take everything you are, everything you have, everything for which you aspire,
and intertwine it all—body, mind, and soul—with another living human being. That
is going to do things to you that you’ve never imagined. You are going to learn
things and travel places and endure hardships and celebrate joys that you cannot
see coming. None of us can. You are going to have to give things up—big things,
your life as you know it, in fact.
Marriage
is the Copernican revolution of the soul. It’s the moment when we cease to
become the center of our own universes, the stars of our own personal movies,
and become instead part of a living, breathing, ever-transforming,
husband-and-wife family. One that is
both ancient and ever-new. The hard part is that you’ll never be alone again. The
wonderful part—is that you’ll never be alone again. From this moment forward,
you are more than the sum of your parts. You are part of an inextricable,
life-long love.
Now
don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that the love you share right now is going to
be strong enough to stand the test of time. It won’t be. This love, here, today,
will not stand the test of time. But that’s okay. In fact, that’s a good thing.
Because as you guys age and grow and strengthen each other and meet brand new
challenges, you know what? Your love will grow too. Your love will expand and
strengthen and age like a fine wine.
The
love that you share today, the fresh love of a new bride and her groom, is
absolutely beautiful. It spreads joy to all those here this afternoon! It
brought you to each other and to the altar of our God. But five years from now,
10, 30, 50—your love will not be the same. It will be older, wiser, stronger,
more patient. And even more beautiful than today.
True
love means watching the same person floss beside you in the bathroom for the
next 40 years. True love means that your spouse will magically inherit the
ability to drive you crazier than any other person on earth. It’s true what
they say: the more you love someone, the more you want to kill them. But that’s
what makes it so wonderful. That’s how you know that it’s real.
Oh,
and then there’s kids. Let me tell you about the kids. They will turn your
world upside down. They will turn you into your parents. They will destroy your
house and get you sick and never let you sleep, ever, for years. And they will
bring so much love into your home that you feel like you could die from it
every single day. That’s really what marriage and parenthood both are. Death
and resurrection. Every day. And there’s something deeply holy about that,
something that makes the chaos of a messy household every bit as sacred to God
as the cathedral or the monastery.
No,
guys, you have no idea what you’re in for. And that’s what’s so awesome. God is
going to take the two of you and forge you into one—and from that one, who
knows? Three, four, five, that’s up to you (mostly). In this marriage God opens
a Pandora’s Box. Not one filled with woes, though there will be more than a few
in there, but one filled with life. Messy, painful, gorgeous, joyous, happy,
tired, lusty, absolutely unpredictable life.
It’s going to be so hard. It’s going to be so great. It’s going to be so
beautiful.
That’s
why everybody has come here this afternoon, you know. Because we know how exciting
it is, how fresh, how hopeful, when God binds two people together and unleashes
a marriage upon the world. We’re all rooting for you. We’re all here to bless
you, because we know how much of a blessing this husband and this wife will be
for us. You may not feel it all at once. You may wake up tomorrow and feel
more-or-less the same way that you do today. But I promise you, God is already
at work, weaving your lives into one, intertwining two lovers into a miracle of
His own design. A time-bomb of life!
And
someday the two of you will look back on it all—all the joys that came
unbidden, all the hardships you’re amazed that you survived—and you’ll see how
much He’s done through you. You’ll see the sacrament God has made of your one
shared life. And on that day you will say, “My God. That crazy preacher at our
wedding was right.”
Thanks be to God, who pours out life like we wouldn’t believe. In Jesus’ Name. AMEN.
Thanks be to God, who pours out life like we wouldn’t believe. In Jesus’ Name. AMEN.
Gabe, watch a few episodes of Srugim if you haven't already. Also, any wedding sermon that doesn't mention 1 Corinthians is a winner in my book.
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